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| May 2006 | |
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Four Questions with Four Couples When you ask a couple the same questions about their relationship, do you get the same answers? We decided to find out and put four married couples to the test. Get an inside look at marriage from perspective across the board.
DESCRIBE YOUR FIRST DATE: She said: He took me with a bunch of his friends to see "Ace Ventura: Pet Detective." Not romantic at all! I bought the popcorn. He said: I don't remember our first date. But I remember the first time I liked her, which was when I first met her. WHAT LITTLE WHITE LIES DO YOU TELL EACH OTHER? She said: That he looks the same as the first day I met him. He said: That we are the most attractive human beings on earth. DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? She sad: Definitely - we are both complete opposites. He is reserved; I can't stop talking. He is very serious; I am totally goofy. He is responsible; I am a scatter brain. He would prefer to chill out on the weekends; I jam as much socializing and activities in as possible. He said: Yes, because I love when she does things I can't or won't do. It makes us more complete as a couple. IS THIS WHO YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN YOURSELF WITH WHEN YOU WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL? She said: Looking at his high school pictures, I don't think I would have noticed him much. He said: Yes. But I knew I couldn't have her when I was in high school. I was a much better candidate later.
DESCRIBE YOUR FIRST DATE: She said: It was at a Japanese restaurant. I had a great time and the food was excellent. When he dropped me off after dinner, he was expecting a kiss on the lips. I gave him a kiss on the cheek. He said: We were both working at the same company and also in "ending" relationships. We were at a bar with some friends and before she left for home I summoned up the courage to ask her out. She agreed, so that weekend we went to a Japanese hibachi restaurant. Normally this would take some "edge" off because with just two people you would sit with others at the same cooking table. It was a slow night so we ended up alone with our own chef anyway. We had great conversations and an enjoyable meal. When droppig her off at home, I went for a kiss and got the cheek. Nice. WHAT LITTLE WHITE LIES DO YOU TELL EACH OTHER? She said: I bought myself a diamond bracelet after my dad passed away. All my girlfriends knew it was real. He asked me if they were fake and I told him, "If you think so, sure." He really believed they were fake and almost bought me real stones to replace the "fake" ones until I 'fessed up. He said: "You're changing the baby? He pooped, really? I didn't notice..." DO OPPOSITES ATTRACT? She said: It can if you make it work. We are not total opposites, but we do have our differences. He loves the outdoors and I like it, but do not love it. I like to go shopping, he hates it. He always makes me write a list of things to get before we go, and as soon as we're done, we have to leave. He never window-shops. He said: Complete opposites - no. My last relationship was with a liberal person while I am conservative. Although we shared a love of the outdoors, many conversations ended up in arguments. It is more important for a couple to complement each other's personalities (50 percent) and have overlapping desires and hobbies (50 percent). This way they have things to do together and things that they spends solo time on. My wife and I are exactly like this. IS THIS WHO YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN YOURSELF WITH WHEN YOU WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL? She said: No. In high school, I never really thought of dating. I just wanted to go out dancing and have fun. He said: Even better than I thought... although I didn't quite date at all during high school.
DESCRIBE YOUR FIRST DATE: She said: Our first formal date was Robby's high school prom. I remember we decided to do something that represented us versus the norm, and seeing that we didn't see ourselves feeling comfortable in a stuffy formal restaurant, we did the next logical thing... we went to McDonalds. I have to say our tastes have changed somewhat since then, but it was a great first date. He said: Our first date was us - a comfortable date at McDonalds - at least that was us nine years ago. I really enjoyed the fact that I could just spend time with her like a friend. It was not about the meal or the ambiance, but rather about each other. I remember being engrossed in our conversation and completely energized by Priya's charisma. I know that since then the meals have definitely changed, but the energy has not. WHAT LITTLE WHITE LIES DO YOU TELL EACH OTHER? She said: I never fully tell him how much I spent shopping and what all I've bought. I also don't always tell him when I eat desserts and little treats because he's very health conscious and I love to eat junk food and snacks. He said: Is this a trick question? WHAT'S THE DEAL-BREAKER FOR YOU THAT COULD END THE RELATIONSHIP? She said: If he ever tried to prevent me from reaching my goals in life and in my career, although it's a non-issue with Robby because he celebrates my happiness and success as his, and that's why I married him. He said: We're married - that's for life. IS THIS WHO YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN YOURSELF WITH WHEN YOU WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL? She said: He was who I was in high school... so yes! He said: I was with her in high school... so yes! We have grown together and evolved together, and I am glad that I can reflect on the development of our relationship through pivotal landmarks in my childhood and young adulthood.
WHAT LITTLE WHITE LIES DO YOU
TELL EACH OTHER? She said: Me ... I never tell a lie! He said: Before we started dating, I once told her I had e-mailed her but got the address wrong (Yahoo instead of the correct Hotmail address). Truth is, I had never gotten around to sending her an e-mail! WHAT IS THE NICEST THING
HE/SHE EVER DID FOR YOU? She said: He asked me to marry him. He said: I don't know if it's the nicest thing she EVER did —
she is always doing nice things for me and takes care of me in so many ways . .
. . Even though she was a vegetarian
when we started dating, she still made me bacon the first time I went to IS THIS WHO YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN YOURSELF WITH WHEN YOU
WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL? She said: Never! I would have never seen myself with him in high school. I think he would have been too intimidating. He said: Yes and no. In terms of a beautiful intelligent girl who has a kind heart, zest for life and genuine concern for others, yes. But, I'm a bit less traditional, and probably wouldn't have seen myself with someone who admittedly is more on the traditional side. In other words, I jokingly call her a "FOB," and she jokingly calls me a "coconut" — but I don't think that is P.C. enough to put in your magazine! Is it? (we’ll let it slide…) WHAT’S THE DEAL-BREAKER FOR YOU THAT COULD END THE
RELATIONSHIP? She said: The deal- breaker to end this relationship would be if I became vegetarian again. The Butanis love their meat! He said: I have worked incessantly to convert her from veg to non-veg, so perhaps a deal-breaker would be if she reverted back to vegetarian! I think a deal-breaker for her would be if I stayed in the U.S. Army. After I served two deployments and one-and-a-half years away overseas, much of it in harm's way, I think she has had enough. Comments (0)
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